Hypnobirthing – Class 4
Right, so this week was… TRAUMATISING. not quite. but in the sense that I find I am ENTIRELY UNPREPARED for this baby to come out.
Now I’m not going to gross you out with all the icky details. As I mentioned a few weeks ago that we watch birthing videos at the start of the class, I’m now somewhat numb to the blood and gore that occurs when birth occurs, but heck, you can’t learn everything from a video.
And it was extremely evident in this week’s class when we are learning a lot more about what exactly happens, what the husband needs to do when you’re trying to get yourself into a trance-like state and focus on your boy and the baby..
It was quite technical this week –
- how do you tell you’re really having labour and it’s not just labour “practice” (or Braxton-Hicks)
- Stages of Labour
- When do you go to the hospital
- What if things don’t move along
- What can you do while waiting for the baby to get moving down into the birth path (or canal)
I’m obviously not going to go through everything. It’s mad.
I’m not even going to go through the birth plan that the hypnobirthing schedule. What the schedule is about, is that we are supposed to have a read through and note down items on the list we would like the doctor and other healthcare professionals attending (midwives/nurses) to take note of.
What is a birth plan?
A birth plan is a document that tells your medical team your preferences for such things as how to manage labor pain. Of course, you can’t control every aspect of labor and delivery, and you’ll need to stay flexible in case something comes up that requires your birth team to depart from your plan. But a printed document gives you a place to make your wishes clear when you have a choice.
For example, besides the stuff that’s in the birth plans below, there are these 5 questions which we kinda narrowed down to specifically ask the doctor’s opinion about and to specifically also include it within the birth plan –
- Can I move around during pregnancy Or am I confined to the bed
- How long before you “move things along” / How long are you comfortable for me to be in labour
- Can I eat and drink while I’m in labour
- When will you induce or call for “further measures” (like a C sect, etc)
- Are you going to carry out an episiotomy or allow me to tear
- How hands on are you during birthing…..
It might seem like it’s taking the whole natural birth thing a little out of hand, but it’s important to think about WHY you’re doing things this way. I mean, natural is natural, but what are the implications of doing things one way or another?
Whatever your reasons may be, why you’re doing a birth plan is because you NEED your doctor and whoever else is going to be looking after you to BUY IN to what you want for your baby’s first experience into coming into the world.
Like what I was talking about last week’s posting about how baby knows exactly what is going on outside of the womb while he/she is still in there, apparently what happens is that babies can be SCARED to come out because he/she senses the environment is not “welcoming and it will sort of cause your womb (and cervix) to seize up and baby just wants to stay right where he/she is.
And that in turn causes difficulty for the labour and the birthing process. Then doctor will say there are problems then induce la, medication la. etc etc etc….
Here’s a good online checklist you can take a quick look at and print out. But do take note that some of this stuff really doesn’t apply in Singapore and is actually country specific for their practices..
Here’s another that you can print out and check on your own time.
Take note that what you really really want to do is:
Find out ALL the routine policies and procedures for “mommy care” in your birth setting. If you do not agree with a policy or procedure, you should discuss it with your health care provider. As you learn more about what to expect, you will likely identify details that you want to include in your plan.
Personally, I don’t have any affinity for my doctor (yet) so we’re really just waiting for the day when our next scan comes around on week 20, which is about another month to go. Then we’ll whack the doctor with all the questions.
Here’s hoping that we really don’t have to search for another one. I truly don’t want to keep looking for doctors who will support me and the hubs for what we want for our baby’s birth.
At the end of the day, if the doc buys into your plan, the last thing that you need to remember is that you need to ENFORCE what you want. Just purely having things down on paper and endorsed doesn’t mean that things will happen as you wish it.
Okay, not that the nurses are like that, but in some hospitals, they are so used to their SOP (Standard of procedures) that they forget you have special requests (and a lot of them, if you’re anything like me :P)
Anyway, it’s a good thing we learnt about the lists earlier on in our pregnancy because these are not just any decisions you can make off the cuff.
So with that, we move on to a new week with a lot more to think about and a heckuva lot of things to plan. Next week will be a break for Hypnobirthing coz it’s National Day! A little more time for thoughts and one final lesson to teach us all the more about end stage pregnancy and what else we need to prepare for as baby gets ready to enter the reaaaal world…